Why is it that love is unconditional for babies, puppies and other small critters but not always for everyone else? What can we do as adults to be more lovable? What can we do to see everyone “in general” as more adorable?
Well, if we look at the question “what can we do to be more adorable,” we should look at why we think babies and puppies are so darn cute. Well, babies gurgle and stumble and pronounce things wrong. Puppies lick and wrestle and we swear they are barking something that sounds like English.
Why is it, if anyone else we ran into gurgled, licked, stumbled, wrestled and couldn’t talk correctly, we would perceive that they were over served or a bit on the slow side? So when we ask the question, what can we do to be more adorable? We know that acting like a drunken sailor is not even close to being adorable.
So why are we so much easier to forgive a four-legged friend or a baby, even if they eat your favorite shoes or spit up all over you? Certainly if anyone else ate your lunch or threw up on you, there would be some discourse in that relationship. It seems we just can’t help forgiving those little ones because they need us and they are so unconditionally loving to us.
The best part of my day is a coffee and a cuddle with my Maltese Shitzu. I rub his ears and his belly and tell him he is handsome. I feel good and so does he, I think. Contemplating this now, aren’t your favorite friends and family the ones who rub your shoulders or squeeze you tight and tell you you’re cute?
Certainly saying, “Gee, you’re swell!” or “Gosh, you look good today!” or even a quick pat on the hand could be all it takes to get the endearing qualities flowing.
Matter of fact, what would happen if we pictured our neighbor or a co-worker or someone you didn’t really know too well, as a sweet little cherub baby or an adorable furry pup? Even if someone is generally hard to get along with, sometimes just visualizing some sweet attributes may smooth out the “ruff” edges of those who may be beyond their “adorable and cuddly” years.
Kathy Kane is business manager and co-publisher of the Trenton Trib. Contact her at email@example.com or (734) 676-0850. Comments and story ideas also can be emailed to the Trib at firstname.lastname@example.org