My son came home for the holidays and shared a speech that he gave in one of his classes at Central Michigan University. I thought it had some really intuitive concepts, or, depending on your perception, it may just be some really good fluff.
Regardless, by using his story, it gave me time to focus on other areas of our business, like taxes, W9s and 1099s instead of writing a column this month. This speech brought back memories for me when I came home from college with new concepts that I shared with my parents and they just nodded and smiled. Now it is my turn.
Who’s right, Who’s wrong? By Dustin Kane
Everyone loves to be right. Everyone loves to get what they want. Everyone loves to be loved. Or do we? Now I know what you are thinking, “So, this guy is going to try and tell me that everything contradicts itself?” Well, I am going to try.
Now … you are thinking, “Is this guy an idiot?” It is possible.
Or, you could be thinking, “Is this guy saying something so absurd it makes perfect sense?” Just know that anything could be right, but also wrong. So yeah, let’s get started!
Everything is a contradiction. Think of it this way, wouldn’t saying that everything is not a contradiction, be a contradiction?
My only goal is to try and persuade you to be more open minded and understanding. I think it’s funny that some people try and force other people to agree with them. Look, I cannot force anyone to agree with me. A statement is only true if you think it is.
Now you might be thinking, “How can we persuade anyone?” That’s a good question, and I am not going to pretend to have the answer for it.
I think credibility is based on an individual’s perspective. So … technically wouldn’t credibility only can be credible if an individual individually credits only certain things credibly?
The truth is I am optimistic. I hope that somehow through this way of thinking you can become more understanding, and open-minded. However, I am also realistic. It is also possible that you could completely disagree with me, hate this column and want me to never write again. I’m going to try my best and have fun, because that’s what’s important, right? Maybe …
If I am giving a speech, I might as well entertain you all with my hypocritical opinions. I think everyone is a hypocrite. Here’s why, have you ever told a lie? Congratulations, you are a hypocrite.
We are taught at a young age to be and act a certain way based on a set of principles not defined by us, but by the people who raise us. We are influenced biologically from birth to be a certain physical way based on the traits we inherited. The nation we live in is biased, the media is biased, our parents are biased, our instinctive actions are biased, everyone is biased, everything is biased, I am biased, and yes even you my friend are biased.
No matter what we choose to do it is still a choice. If you choose to believe in God, or not believe in God, or believe in something else entirely … regardless you made a choice, and that choice was always possibility. Belief is interesting, it fascinates me. We are all radically free to create our own meaning. There’s always a reason if you are willing to believe it. Anything we reason can be proven right or wrong given a real or hypothetical circumstance. Everything is so complex, confusing and difficult, but it could also be so simple, understandable, and easy, and that is truly amazing, right? Maybe …
Are people responsible for their situations in life? Is everything pre-determined? Do we make our own decisions? Should people get what they deserve? Should we rehabilitate, incapacitate or deter a criminal?
Should a good life be a pleasurable one? Is nothing meant to be taken seriously, or literally? If it makes you happy, it can’t be bad, right? It could be…
Is there true happiness? Do we only care for each other because it makes ourselves feel good? How can we receive everything we have ever wanted, and still be unhappy? How can we truly be happy, if our emotional state is constantly changing along with what we seek to make us happy?
I do not have the answers. No one has the answers. There is no right or wrong way. There is only a way. No one knows what to do. They just do. I love to be right. I love to get what I want. I love to be loved. We all do, or do we?
In conclusion, everything is a contradiction. Know that you may never find the truth, but know that you can learn from the past, be present, and create a better future. Be positive, laugh and have fun. Be with the people that mean the most to you, and most importantly be the strongest version of yourself, so you inspire the world to do the same.
Then again, I could be wrong, but I’m not afraid if I am. We all have our flaws. Everyone is burdened by choice. We need to accept the fact that there is no real way to prove why, and fighting over our individualistic values is meaningless. We are in this together.
So, did I persuade you that everything is in opposition or are you just going to try and contradict me?
Kathy Kane is business manager and co-publisher of the Trenton Trib. Contact her at email@example.com or (734) 676-0850. Comments and story ideas also can be emailed to the Trib at firstname.lastname@example.org